Desperate Blackmailer? Here's What To Do

Blackmailers start young, believe me. My first encounter with a blackmailer was when I was in the fourth grade and she wanted something she didn't have - my pencil cases. She waited for the right time and saw me writing the lyrics of a love song on the back of my notebook, then she stole my notebook. I was enrolled in a mega-conservative convent school so having written 'I want my hot stuff baby this evening ...' was a mortal sin. Enough to send me to hell in fact, because it didn't imply Tabasco sauce but LUST and CARNALITY! (Oh, can we believe there was a time in our lives when everything seemed so archaic?) 

After stealing my notebook, this classmate of mine was extremely nice. She'd say she wanted my friendship and she simply borrowed by pencil case. Yet, she'd also say that if I didn't 'lend' it to her, she's show the nuns my HOT STUFF notebook. Everything was innocent when I wrote the lyrics of that song, it was a top hit, but yes, it could be twisted to mean something else. And that is exactly what this young blackmailer was out to do - make a completely innocent gesture look malicious.

Blackmailers prey on people to get their stuff and/or attention. They're control freaks and, much like stalkers, they prey on the most innocent people waiting for them to make a "mistake". Usually these "mistakes" aren't real, they're twisted and presented as facts while taken out of context. A simply hello hug could be interpreted to mean harassment for instance. much as the singing the song HOT STUFF can be purposely mistaken as "suggestive" or even malicious.

Blackmailers usually demand SOMETHING. Be it money, stuff or attention, the best thing to do is immediately REPORT the person to the police and tell the police that you feel this person is out to blackmail you. If you can't do that, confide in people and never keep it to yourself. Telling the police or people gives YOU the safety net of having informed the police or your friends even before you are actually blackmailed. Better still, get a lawyer and discuss your case as candid as possible.

Never believe that blackmailers take a break. They don't. Do not try to reason with them because they're usually obsessed with what they want to get from you. Thus, they are illogical and may "promise" not to bother you again if you just give in THIS ONCE,but remember that giving in to blackmail will only exacerbate your problem. No one who has ever been blackmailed completely stopped if they can use the same "goods" against you over and over. 

Blackmailers are liars. Remember THAT. No, they won't leave you in peace even if you give them what they want. They are CONTROLLING and what they want, they get ---even at the expense of awfully bothering other people. They're "primally determined" as a wolf who can smell fresh prey. 

Then there are also EMOTIONAL blackmailers who may be harder to handle. These people usually want attention and they can threaten anyone with suicide attempts (real or feigned); sickness, and even several law suits. Sure they'll say it's because of LOVE, but it certainly isn't the kind of love any reasonable human being expects of would be comfortable with. An emotional blackmailer does not love but WANTS you or something you have and will never stop even if you give her/him attention or whatever he/she demands. Thus, it is best to get a lawyer immediately, contact your local police and TELL your friends  about it before he/she strikes. Do not try and play therapy doctor to someone whom you know is emotionally blackmailing you particularly if you are NOT a psychiatrist. 

Blackmail is a control game. It's the oldest game played by an individual against another since time immemorial. It's as old as prostitution, except that prostitution is more honest because there is a clear exchange of goods for "services rendered". Someone who resorts to blackmail wants to satisfy what he/she perceives as his/her NEED and cannot distinguish NEED from want. They are usually selfish and manipulative people who will devour you when given a chance.